Many find Support Groups Help with the Healing Process
When someone close to you dies, your world changes. Feelings can range from grief and sorrow to shock and fear. The surviving person may feel guilty for being alive, or angry at a loved one for leaving them. All of these feelings are normal. There are no rules about how you should feel; and no right or wrong way to mourn.
Grief can cause a person to easily cry, have trouble sleeping, problems concentrating and making decisions as well as having little interest in food. When intense feelings linger over a long period of time, experts say a targeted or specialized support group may be beneficial by letting the person know they are not alone and that others are experiencing many of the same things they are.
Mary Lamia, a clinical psychologist and author of the 2022 book Grief Isn’t Something to Get Over: Finding a Home for Memories and Emotions After Losing a Loved One, says, “It’s important to look for grief support that will not necessarily make you feel better, but makes you feel understood. She adds It’s not about getting over it, but learning how to continue to live with it. Also, as grief is a personal experience, it is important to find a group where you feel understood and are not judged.
It may take time to find the right fit. Grief support groups can focus on specific illnesses such as cancer or Alzheimer’s, or the loss of a special loved one such as a spouse, child or sibling. AARP suggests when looking for a support group to start local by asking area hospice organizations and hospitals as well as senior centers or funeral homes for referrals. You can also do a national search for groups that can provide local outreach or join a support group online.
Experts say it is important to keep in mind grief support groups are not intended to take away the pain, but rather to remember hurting is part of the healing process. Grief counselors also say you may have to try more than one group to find one that connects with your needs.
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